YOUR SEX LIFE IS NOT A PORNO MOVIE

//Your Sex Life Is Not A Porno Movie

Hi and welcome to episode 153 of The Couples Expert with your host The Couples Expert Stuart Fensterheim. Stuart brings you a topic that he’s had come up lately in his counseling practice: The idea that your sex life is not a porno movie. Are your expectations about sex with your partner realistic or do you expect your sex life to be like a porno movie?

Listen as Stuart discusses sexuality and expectations on today’s Couples Expert podcast.

Even the Couples Expert has expectations about sexuality that may not be realistic. Sex is affected by all sorts of outside circumstances: aging, our physical limitations and our expectations can be completely different from what normal healthy sexuality is in a long term relationship.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

  • The sex industry is huge, you can find anything you want to see [3:08]
  • Sex addiction is rampant and rivals any hard drug [4:00]
  • How is porn affecting your relationship? [5:14]
  • The gender divide in how porn is viewed [7:29]
  • We have to realize it’s not always fireworks and mind blowing sex [11:40]
  • Porn actors are not real people! [15:00] 
  • Porn sex vs. Real sex on YouTube link below [16:50]

It’s great if you want to watch porn together and talk about it. Note the things that excite you and things you want to try. It’s all about what you both want. You both get to choose what the rules are. If your partner doesn’t feel comfortable trying something then you need to respect that.

Whatever your choices are, you both have to agree. IF your partner is into porn and you’re not comfortable with that you need to discuss it. If you can be open-minded about having a fantasy life and role playing or trying new things you just might broaden your horizons and spice up your intimate life. There’s nothing wrong with you and your partner experiencing new things sexually and being adventurous, just make sure that you both are okay with it.

Avoid being secretive or indulging in sex acts or porn fantasies that your partner doesn’t participate or is not aware of. This is venturing into infidelity and betrayal. Both of you have to be open and honest about what you’re doing sexually.

Sex addiction is no joke. If it’s an issue get help for the addiction before you try to save your relationship. See the resources on our website http://www.thecouplesexperts.com/resources

The point is to have adventures, being open and excited to share new things and explore your sexuality together, keeping your emotional connection strong.

Thank you for spending part of your day with The Couples Experts. We hope you enjoyed the show and take away something meaningful to your relationship. Until next time stay connected!

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