Infidelity is rarely about sex. It is, more often a symptom of attachment needs that are not being met in a relationship. Affairs are a way for people who are feeling lonely and empty in their relationship to fill that void, albeit temporarily. Infidelity leaves a permanent scar on a relationship. However, recovery from the relationship injury of infidelity is possible.
Your Relationship Can Overcome the Pain of Infidelity…
Once it’s out in the open that there’s been an affair, the most difficult thing for couples to manage is communication. Emotions of guilt and remorse on one side, shock and betrayal on the other, can leave couples feeling like their relationship is over forever. Anger and hurt, defensiveness and rationalization get in the way of allowing a couple to push past the affair and deal with the important, underlying issues that made the relationship vulnerable to the affair.
Recovery from infidelity is rare without professional counseling. An objective third party trained in couple’s therapy can help couples to cope with the ensuing sense of displacement, the feeling that everything familiar is now foreign and:
Deal with the terrible realization that the flaws in their relationship were far more severe than imagined
Express their emotions in a productive and vulnerable manner, allowing them to clearly define their relationship issues
Communicate without using emotions as weapons, and understand each other’s deepest feelings
Overcome the grief of infidelity to eventually find acceptance
Follow a map to the place of love and reconnection that they truly desire
…And Be Stronger for It!
It may seem unbelievable, but it is a fact that couples who are able to overcome the trauma of infidelity and rebuild their relationship find that the relationship is deeper, more closely connected, and stronger than ever. Through this process they learn to be authentic with one another, to communicate openly and vulnerably, and to love exclusively and unconditionally.