You’ve heard the old adage, “Expect the worst and hope for the best”? I think you should go one step beyond that when it comes to your relationship with your partner. You should plan for your best case scenario. What do I mean by that?
Instead of expecting things to go badly or go wrong in your relationship, do the work as a couple to help make certain that they will not. If you project negativity and failure, guess what you’re likely to accomplish? A self-fulfilling prophesy. Marriage counseling can help, but wouldn’t it be great if you never need it?
When you are fortunate enough to find that one person to share your life with, expect great things. Build a foundation of connection and emotional safety where you both feel loved and important in the relationship. Of course that doesn’t guarantee it will all work out in the end, but it does give you a far better chance of success.
To paraphrase the great Norman Vincent Peale, ”Reach for the moon and if you miss you’ll still be among the stars.”