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Hello and welcome to episode 167 of The Couples Expert Podcast. We’re so happy you’ve joined us for one of my (and I hope your) favorite topics. Stuart is ready to tell you all about how to make your partner feel loved and important and so special in your life. The gift that keeps on giving is the gift of birthday sex!  

Stuart is examining being a therapist and dealing w/ individuals with mental health issues. Sometimes clients go off the deep end and it’s scary as a counselor.  In voicing that concern to his wife Stuart and she had a discussion about how he was reacting to the recent crimes in his area involving counselors and how they each saw this issue differently.

Nobody wants their feelings to be discounted by their partner, and you should never assume a meaning from your partner without clarifying their statements. You both need to feel that the other person understands your feelings, and is not discounting them.  You’re on the same side of the issue.  It’s so important that you each know how to share with your partner when you’re disconnected or feeling pulled apart how important they are to you and how much you love each other.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

  • In order to make Birthday Sex special you have to have done the work on your relationship the other 364 days as well 5:34
  • Sharing your love and passion is electric and exciting when you’re celebrating each other 8:10
  • It’s about giving your partner something special and showing them how much you love them on their special day 10:00
  • The anticipation of the outcome will be half the fun. So tease and flirt!  12:34
  • Plan for what will please your partner the most and make them feel special 17:00
  • Make the environment conducive to a relaxed, playful and sexy time 18:40
  • Do something out of the ordinary to make it special 20:28

Set aside the stresses and things you’re working on or struggling with in your relationship. Take a break and have some fun. Set up the scenario that will make it meaningful and surprising to your partner and don’t fuss about the little things.

Don’t go to extremes that can create stress such as elaborate surprises or role playing if you’ve never done it. If you have a party, let your partner know that your sexy time will commence as soon as the party ends and you will be the special gift at the end of the evening. Flirt and tease your partner until they are ready to clear the room.  Be creative and have fun, but realize that it’s not simply sex. They need to know it’s all about them and that you love them so much that you want to give them this very special gift on their birthday.  The love that you share is the gift that keeps on giving.

Make them feel how important they are to you all year around.Thank you for joining us on The Couples Expert. Until next time, be surprising, and stay connected.

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