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Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast, with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 180 or our show. Today, Stuart talks about loving yourself despite betrayal in a relationship. Stuart will discuss 4 parts in today’s podcast:

  1. How do we really define what betrayal looks like in a relationship?
  2. What does the hurt look like, feel like, and what is the experience like?
  3. What are the long-term consequences of that?
  4. How do we recover from those hurts, and how do we move on?

Stuart just returned from a cruise to England, where he and his wife had a lovely holiday connecting and enjoying each other. He also spent some time thinking about this podcast, and specifically this episode.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

  • Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur Greetings 0:16
  • How do we trust again? 2:30
  • Can we really see ourselves as valuable in a relationship 3:50
  • How do we really define betrayal? 5:50
  • Your partner’s perception of you 14:00
  • Your partner becomes the means with which we define our world 15:15
  • What does the hurt really look like? 18:05
  • Am I lovable?  (Emotionally focused therapy) 22:00
  • Separate yourself 25:00
  • Grieve for the lost relationship, without blame 27:00
  • Finding who you are 29:50
  • Healing from betrayal 33:40

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For many of us there are scars that we bring from our previous relationships. When we come from a significant relationship where there are betrayals, we have a difficult time trusting ourselves and our new partners. We have to find the silver lining. We have to choose happiness.

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