//Am I Lovable Enough?

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast, with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 180 or our show. Today, Stuart talks about loving yourself despite betrayal in a relationship. Stuart will discuss 4 parts in today’s podcast:

  1. How do we really define what betrayal looks like in a relationship?
  2. What does the hurt look like, feel like, and what is the experience like?
  3. What are the long-term consequences of that?
  4. How do we recover from those hurts, and how do we move on?

Stuart just returned from a cruise to England, where he and his wife had a lovely holiday connecting and enjoying each other. He also spent some time thinking about this podcast, and specifically this episode.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

  • Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur Greetings [0:16]
  • How do we trust again? [2:30]
  • Can we really see ourselves as valuable in a relationship [3:50]
  • How do we really define betrayal? [5:50]
  • Your partner’s perception of you [14:00]
  • Your partner becomes the means with which we define our world [15:15]
  • What does the hurt really look like? [18:05]
  • Am I lovable?  (Emotionally focused therapy) [22:00]
  • Separate yourself [25:00]
  • Grieve for the lost relationship, without blame [27:00]
  • Finding who you are [29:50]
  • Healing from betrayal [33:40]

For many of us there are scars that we bring from our previous relationships. When we come from a significant relationship where there are betrayals, we have a difficult time trusting ourselves and our new partners. We have to find the silver lining. We have to choose happiness.

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