Vulnerabilities In Relationships

3 WAYS TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF RELATIONSHIP VULNERABILITIES

Three ways to move past your relationship vulnerabilities is opening up with your partner.  Relationship vulnerability  is a key ingredient of a healthy love relationship, and it also entails some risk. You have to be willing to risk opening up emotionally to your partner in order to achieve the closeness that we all crave with our life partners. Below you will find three ways to help you be more vulnerable.

 Face your fear 

The first step is to understand the origin of the fear and see how the fear has impacted your relationships since childhood. Without blaming, you can understand how the way you were raised and how the fear of relationship vulnerability  you had with family members and your primary caregivers impacted your perceptions and expectations surrounding interactions with strangers, friends and potential mates. Facing this fear of being vulnerable is scary and you must be brave and willing to take some chances to help secure your future happiness. Build a stronger, more loving relationship. 

 Be willing to risk it 

In order to overcome your fear of relationship vulnerabilities you have to courageously risk being hurt. Every time you open up to someone and allow yourself to be vulnerable that risk is present. You must come to terms with whether or not a successful authentic love relationship is what is important to you. Do you need to know that you are fully loved for who you truly are? It’s for you alone to decide if you can be brave enough to step out and show your true self to someone you care about. When you can love someone so completely that you can show your scars and fears to them you’re giving them a huge gift. The result is that you have someone who takes you for who you are and loves you for all of the dark places that you used to hide. 

 

 

Claim your reward 

Not only do you find that complete soul connection with your loved ones when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you learn that all of that stuff you were keeping hidden, really isn’t all that bad. You’ve taken that risk and been rewarded with a partner who truly knows your authentic self, and loves you because of (or in spite of) your fears. With risk come great rewards. Overcoming the fear of vulnerability is possible. It all starts with wanting to have a close connected relationship with someone more than you want to be alone and building a foundation of love and trust with that person. If these things are a challenge for you and your partner build a stronger, more loving relationship with  a counselor  , featuring proven emotionally focused therapy or any attachment based theory.  

 

 



2021-03-25T18:12:29+00:00

About the Author:

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Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.