Partners Make Today Count

In my work with couples or partners I hear this over and over again people meet, they fall in love, move in together, they get married. They live their day to day lives until something happens. Then all of a sudden they are in a crisis. You need to make everyday count.   Maybe it was something they expected; old age, or infirmity; or maybe it was something unexpected; like a pandemic, or a car wreck.  Loss of a loved one can happen at any time, whether you’re ready or not. 

I often ask partners if you knew this was the last day you’d have your partner with you on this Earth; if you had some foreknowledge of the end of their life, what would you do different? 

Would you treat them the way you treated them today, or would you be more attentive, kinder, more loving? Would you bring them coffee in bed, take them to their favorite places, cuddle and love on them; show them how cherished they are? What would you do? 

I want you to stop and think about this for a moment. If you’re not treating your partners with all the lovingkindness you have in you, if you’re not showing them how much you care for them every day, I think you should start. 

None knows how long we will be fortunate enough to share this life with our loved ones, so why not start today? What was the last thing you said to your partner when you parted ways today? If it wasn’t “I love you” or something sweet and kind, why wasn’t it?  All couples need to reinforce the love they have for each other every single day.

The uncertain future we have ahead of us reminds me that tomorrow is not promised to any of us. The best we can do is to be our best self now, today. You never know if anytime you see your loved one might be the last, so don’t fail to show love.  Today with your partner is a gift, don’t take it for granted. If you’re blessed and fortunate enough to have someone to love and who loves you back, you should show gratitude and appreciation to and for them every single day of your lives. 

We can get busy, feel rushed, harassed or too pressured by outside circumstances to stop and smell the roses, as it were.  I’d like this to serve as a reminder to you both that every morning we’re given this one day to be together, to live with the one we love. Don’t take it for granted and don’t squander it. Cherish your loved ones now, while you can. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. Make today count. 









About the Author:

Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.