Happiness In the Now

Don’t work for future happiness. Be happy now before you run out of time. None of us knows how much time we have but we do know that life can be too short. So instead of working on future happiness goals, make some goals to appreciate and be grateful for what you have in front of you right now. 

Don’t get me wrong, goals are great. It’s awesome to have a 2 year, a 5 year and a 10 year plan.  Set up your trajectory so you have certain milestones to meet and you can work towards and celebrate them when you meet them. My point is to not get so caught up in these goals that you forget to live in the now. 

Mindfulness and gratitude are keys to happiness. If you don’t know that, it’s high time you explored this concept. What happens when you’re working and striving for a goal that stays just out of reach? Frustration and a feeling of falling short, being unable to measure up, that you’re lacking. Sometimes it feels like you’ll never get there. 

Living in the moment and practicing mindfulness puts us in a mindset to be more aware of all the good things that are in our life right now, this very minute.  Appreciation and gratitude for what we have paves the way for happiness that is happening today, not in the future. 

Your relationship and your partner is a huge part of that. Whether you are together 24/7 or only for a few hours a day and on your days off, there is so much to be grateful for. You and your partner might be busy working and striving for your future goals; maybe to buy a house or start a family. Whatever it is, be sure you don’t get locked into a mindset that says tomorrow will be better than today. Make today count because you never know how many tomorrow’s you have in store.  There’s always something to be grateful for, to be happy about .If you have a partner who loves you and cares for you, that’s one huge thing right there. Don’t overlook it. 


About the Author:

Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.