Loving Partner

When you’re part of a couple, you are in possession of a great gift; a loving partner that you can turn to when you’re feeling worried or uncertain.  Simply knowing you have that loving partner is reassuring, empowering and confidence building. 

The questions I’d like for you to ask yourself are: Am I the same kind of reliable, steadfast and loving partner for my spouse? When they are feeling unsure or undecided do they feel confident turning to me for advice or counsel? Am I the loving person that my mate can rely on to be there for them? Will I have their back and stand with them through the tough times in life?  

If your answer is a resounding “yes”, then I commend you. If not? Well, I think you might have some work to do. This is a great question to ask and a great goal to have as a relationship benchmark. For until you can truly rely on each other and your relationship is solid enough to withstand difficult times without falling apart, you’re not on the solid footing you need to stand together on.  

It takes an investment of time and love in your relationship to reach the place where you are both reliable loving partners for each other. It’s not impossible, nor is it even really very difficult. It simply requires that you think about what your partner is going through and what he/she needs from you to be successful, then to freely give it.

When you’ve both reached the level in your relationship where you both are able to talk about the difficult issues as well as the superficial ones, you are well on your way to meeting this relationship benchmark. It’s not that hard, simply take it one day, one action at a time and see how much more loving you can be.

You may already be a loving partner, and that doesn’t mean you can’t do even better. You and your partner truly do need each other now, and will even more in the future. Start with small and consistent loving actions and add them to your list as you go. Pretty soon, you’re going to be experienced in this love stuff to the point you and your partner both can rely on one another and expect to have a loving partner responding to their needs at any given time.


About the Author:

Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.