Be the Present this Year

Did you know that you can be (the) present this holiday? It’s true. Being mindful and in the moment is the next best thing to, say, just being a body in a chair.

No matter your family dynamics, the venue, how far you have to travel or what weather you must brave, the most important thing about the holidays is how you show up for your partner and those you love.

Aside from the religious and spiritual significance of the time, the fact that you are able to gather together with loved ones, share some special time, feast on wonderful food, and exchange gifts is a gift in and of itself. It’s made even better by practicing mindfulness and being fully present with your partner. Be (the) present this holiday season by giving your partner and your family this gift.

Take a pause in the middle of whatever you may be doing just to notice your feelings, your surroundings, those who are with you, and to truly appreciate it in the moment. 

We can get so stressed out about having everything just perfect, our house, our table, the food, presents; that we let it all go by in a blur of activity. Being present and mindful gives us a chance to stop, take a breath, and fully be in the moment with those we love.  

If you’re not used to practicing mindfulness, there is a plethora of information about it online, but what it really boils down to is the practice of pausing, and noticing your surroundings, acknowledging your feelings, paying attention to your breathing and your body; where you are in space and time; and then releasing negative thoughts and feelings and replacing them with love and gratitude. It’s easy to do once you try it and your holiday events will be much happier and less stressful when you are mindful of the love and blessings that surround you.

We are so easily distracted in the midst of the holiday rush, so make it a point this year to be mindful, give the gift of YOU this holiday and be (the) present this holiday.


About the Author:

Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.