Couples Counseling in Scottsdale

Has your relationship become a struggle? Are you and your spouse or partner fighting the same fight over and over? Do you feel out of touch or wonder if you can still trust the person you were once so close with?

Relationships are not easy or simple. Sometimes, your connection with the one you love becomes a challenge. Sometimes you feel trapped in a cycle of  FEAR, HURT, ANGER, and LONELINESS. You feel MISTRUSTED or  BETRAYED by the one you love. This can be excruciatingly painful and you feel there is no way to change it. It might seem difficult to express what you’re really missing or looking for in your relationship. However, you can find a path to HAPPINESS in your marriage and family.
ROCKY WATERS , you don’t have to navigate tough times alone. Couples counseling can give you and your partner the tools to truly RECONNECT and understand each others wants and needs. When you are aware of each others feelings, your behaviors will start to make a lot more sense. Understanding why each person acts the way they do can help couples come together and reclaim the LOVING and CARING relationship you once had. Your relationship or marriage can become a place where you can express your love in more meaningful ways. With marriage and relationship counseling couples  begin to recognize and express their need for love, connection, and comfort that are often hidden by harsh words and repeated patterns of conflict. These cycles feel impossible to change. However, this change can occur. Do not let your doubts interfere with you getting the kind of love you want and need.

For further information on my approach to Couples Counseling please call 480-442-3306 or use my contact form to send me questions.

Family Counseling in Scottsdale

Does your home life seem more like a battlefield than a sanctuary? Do your family members have a hard time interacting and making sense of each other? Are you searching for a way to create a safe, loving relationship for your family?

Typical family concerns are:

  • Parenting skills
  • Financial conflicts
  • Substance abuse by a parent or child
  • Teenage pregnancy
  • Sibling conflicts/rivalry
  • Frequent fighting
  • Coping with Grief and loss
  • Trauma/Abuse


Family life is complicated. Trying to juggle all the needs and demands of each family member, including yourself, can be daunting. Sometimes it feels impossible establishing a sense of authority as a parent while maintaining a supportive and loving environment.

It might seem like there is no way for your family to get along. Thankfully, you can all work together to become a successful family unit. Family counseling provides an opportunity for family member to work through these issues.  You can take positive steps towards REDUCING CONFLICT and STRENGTHENING FAMILY CONNECTIONS.

Families are supposed to be a place where you can feel safe, supported and encouraged. Many people know this isn’t always the case. Learning how to express yourself more effectively REDUCING POTENTIAL CONFLICT and allowing everyone to feel cared about and important. By decreasing these misunderstandings and reducing emotional outbursts, you can develop a feeling of CLOSENESS and SHARED MEANING in your lives together.

Depression Counseling in Scottsdale

Are you feeling down and sad a great deal of the time? Do you feel daily life is overwhelming? Does emotional pain keep you from living the life you want? I want to help you rediscover your best self. Depression impacts your perception of the world around you, usually in a less-than-positive way. Many things that lead to your depression like the way you see yourself and your relationships with others might seem like inescapable truths. But what you might think you see clearly isn’t necessarily reality. Depression distorts the truth and leads you to perceive your life more negatively in general. This can make it almost impossible to overcome depression on your own. We will work together on RESOLVING THE ISSUES and finding new ways of coping so we can DISCOVER YOUR SKILLS and STRENGTHS. With honest, direct feedback you can learn stratelgies to overcome problems such as depression that keep you from living the life you deserve.


Introduction to Stuart Fensterheim LCSW

Hi thank you for taking a look at my website. I’m Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW, and I have participated in mental health Counseling  for many years. I am dedicated to helping you and your loved ones reconnect and build the supportive, loving relationships you want and deserve. I have 25 years of experience in many different counseling settings helping couples, families, and individuals develop deep emotional understanding in order to find comfort and peace of mind.  I do not take my responsibility as a therapist lightly. I am committed and dedicated to helping each and every client who walks through my door. I believe in complete transparency with my clients. We openly work together to create positive healing. Seeking help through therapy can seem intimidating, and you might be hesitant to pick up the phone and make your first appointment. I have  helped many men  in particular see the value of having an emotionally bonded relationship with a special partner. We have worked on how to express these emotions and establish a close intimate relationship so that they can see this benefit with the relationships in their lives.  However, needing help is not a sign of weakness, and it does not suggest you’ve somehow failed in your life.The truth is that it is often very difficult to handle all we put on our plates. If you are struggling with family- or relationship-related stress on top of everything else you’ve taken on, chances are you feel pretty overwhelmed. Counseling can help give you the tools to live the life you desire. In fact, seeking help is really a sign of courage.    Life can get the best of all of us sometimes. It’s a little bit of attitude and a whole lot of believing that with supportive friends , families and the connection with a significant person in your life  you can get through even the hardest times . It’s about being a little bit of a tortoise , putting one foot in front of the other. It’s not about how quickly we get to the finish line  just getting there feeling loved and special to the people in your life.   I  have had my own pain and relationship challenges.  With this history in my own life I feel like I can understand and be empathetic with the challenges that may bring you to my door.