When you have a physical injury such as a sprain, a cut or a broken bone, you experience pain for a short while, you take some steps to treat the injury then you heal. Once it’s thoroughly mended, the injury becomes nothing more than an unpleasant memory or a good story to tell. When [...]
When couples suffer a relationship injury there are some specific steps I guide them through in order for them to reach a place of true apology and forgiveness. The problems that arise in the space between apology and the beginning of forgiveness come when the triggers happen and behavior isn’t changing. Real forgiveness can [...]
We’ve been talking in my office about expectations of relationships vs. the reality of them. I was especially impacted by one young couple that came to see me after 15 months of marriage. I was very curious to hear their story. This is a good example of how people can get into a situation [...]
How many of you have ever taken text messages out of context? Have you read into these text messages a meaning that didn’t exist, and get it entirely wrong? You’re not alone. As a therapist I always recommend face to face conversations over text messages, especially when it comes to talking about difficult issues [...]
