After you and your partner have been together for some time, you recognized the importance of being a good listener. Couples often develop a language I like to call “Couples Shorthand”. It consists mainly of questions asked by one partner, answered with grunts and groans from the other. Sound familiar? A funny quote is that 90% [...]
About Stuart FensterheimStuart Fensterheim, LCSW helps couples to overcome the disconnection in their relationships. As an author, blogger and podcaster, Stuart has helped couples around the world to experience a unique relationship in which they can feel special and important, confident in knowing they are loved deeply and that their presence matters. The Couples Expert Podcast consists of weekly provocative conversations offering the perspectives and insight of experts from a variety of relationship related fields. Stuart also offers daily relationship video tips on The Couples Expert YouTube channel and by subscription in Stuart's Daily Notes. Stuart is happily married and a devoted father of 2 daughters. His office practice serves the greater Phoenix, Arizona area including the cities of Scottsdale, Chandler, Tempe, and Mesa.
Is self-care selfish? If you feel the need to be alone or to spend time away from your partner, are you being disloyal? In this time of contagion and enforced isolation is it wrong to want to spend time alone or away from your partner? The answer is no. Self-care is crucial, especially now when so many outside [...]
Romancing your partner during Covid is difficult for many couples. The concepts of dating and romancing your loved ones in long term relationships often have given way to movie nights and stolen moments after the kids have gone to sleep for too many couples. For some of us, this Covid Crisis has exacerbated this and [...]
Happy Thanksgiving! The Thanksgiving holiday has me thinking once again about the role that gratitude plays in our lives. This year especially its even more important to reflect on all of this. Couples who come to me for counseling are often missing this crucial piece of the puzzle in their relationship. Gratitude needs to play [...]