We’re raised to think there is an ideal mate out there, maybe even more than one for every person. Girls are taught that they may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find their prince, their perfect man, their knight in shining armor. The media feeds boys and men an ideal of a perfect woman who not only looks stunning, thin and perfectly made up, but is a “saint in the street and a freak in the sheets.” Men have to make a ton of money, buy flowers, be romantic and work around the clock supporting their woman, be able to work around the house AND remain emotionally available. If one person doesn’t check all the boxes then they can’t possibly be the right person to commit to forever. It doesn’t take long for us to become jaded and cynical about finding “the one” for us. What’s the reason? Both men and women often have an impossible standard that they hold their partner to. This idealized version of the perfect mate doesn’t exist. I hate to burst your bubble folks, but there is no perfect man or perfect woman.
It’s time to throw away all of those misconceptions of what society deems the ideal. By disregarding anyone who does not tick off all the boxes for you, you could be missing out on someone who may not be perfect, but may be perfect for you. We can get into a judgmental mode of superficiality where if someone doesn’t look the part, or isn’t “my type” we don’t even give them a second glance. Sure, physical appearance is part of our attraction, but true and lasting attraction comes from a deeper and more emotional place. So the next time you meet someone, look a little deeper, take the time to get to know them before you decide that they couldn’t possibly be “the one” for you. You may find that your ideal mate is in a slightly different package than you expected to unwrap. The greatest surprises are to be found underneath.