One of the characteristics of a close connected love relationship is the loyalty that the partners feel and show for each other. Respect, communication, affection, intimacy and compassion are all offshoots of this foundational characteristic. Does loyalty come naturally when two people fall in love and make a commitment to be monogamous? I’d like to think so; but I’m going to spell out how to define loyalty in a relationship.
Loyalty is dedication; knowing that you’re devoted solely to each other. That all of the choices and decisions you make have been considered with your partner and the impact on your relationship in mind. Your commitment never wavers and your bond is unbreakable.
Loyalty is faithfulness; not just avoiding temptation (but that too), but being faithful in all of your promises, keeping your word, following through on your plans and sticking with your partner til the end.
Loyalty is steadfastness; knowing you can rely on each other. Being there for one another through the good times and being each other’s safe harbor when times are tough. You’re going to go through challenges and struggles. All couples do. How great it is to know that you have someone who has your back through it all.
Loyalty is patience. Realize that you both are flawed, that you both make mistakes and being patient with your partner when they’re not at their most lovable. Having the patience to listen to your partner, and sometimes to read between the lines and hear what they’re not saying out loud.
Loyalty is companionship. Your partner is your best friend. The loyalty you would show to your best friend means that you take their side and are on their team 100%. Just being together, being their faithful and loving companion above all others is the loyalty of companionship. As we age and our sexual life changes, this companionship becomes even more important.
Loyalty is the desire to see your partner and your relationship succeed. Everything you do, everything you say and all that you are is invested in your relationship with your partner. You’re determined to be a successful couple living your fairy tale love story together.
I like to think of my dog Ollie and how loyal he is. He is my loving and faithful companion. He would never pass me over for another human. He loves me unconditionally and without question. He would do anything I ask of him that’s within his power to do. He’s never far away, and the affection he has for me shows all over him when I walk into the room. We can only hope that we as humans can manifest that kind of loyalty to each other!