Welcome to the 54th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast: Can Questions Really Help You Fall in Love?

Have you ever wondered what it is exactly that makes us fall in love with someone? What is it about meeting a person that brings us close to them? Is it possible to fall in love with anyone, or is there only one person out there who is just right for us? Scientists have actually been trying to answer these questions for many years. And it turns out, there are scientific answers to them.

Join Stuart as he talks with Professor of Psychology, Dr. Arthur Aron, about the psychology of love, from that first exciting spark, to the deep and lasting relationship, and about how love may really only be 36 questions away! This provocative conversation may change your perspective of everyone around you.

The proof of passion lies in the brain. Images show that intense lasting love is possible!

…when they think about or look at a picture of a person they’re in love with, there is activation in the dopamine reward area…

Find out just how important a deep and full relationship is to your overall well being.

…the quality of your close relationships plays a bigger role in your general well being and happiness than any other factor…

From “Would you like to be famous?” to “Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.” What are The 36 Questions and what are they all about?

We wanted to be able to test, systematically, what is the effect of being close to someone.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How 36 questions may not necessarily make you fall in love, but they can rekindle that initial brilliant spark of love;
  • That doing something exciting and new with your partner on a regular basis can deepen your love and draw you closer together;
  • That self-disclosure is important, but that responsiveness is the key to success in a close, connected relationship;
  • How celebrating your partner’s successes tells them that you love them and want to be with them;
  • And that there are three particular qualities you should look for in your relationship to tell if it’s strong and in a good place.


Arthur Aron

Dr. Arthur Aron
Professor of Psychology
State University of New York
Stony Brook

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