BOOKS RECOMMENDED

Couples and Relationships

Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
by Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. An excellent introduction to Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. www.holdmetight.net
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
by Dr. Sue Johnson, 2013. The latest scientific research on how and why we love.
www.iceeft.com
The official website for Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Contains links to the scientific research on the efficacy of this therapy. University of Ottawa, Canada.
www.Gottman.com
The Gottman Institute is a great source of scientifically validated methods for improving your relationship.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by Dr. John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, 1999.
The Relationship Cure: A 5-Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family and Friendships
by Dr. John M. Gottman, 2002.
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Hardcover
by Brene Brown, 2012.
Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope
by Robert D. Enright, Ph.D., 2001.

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Healing from an Affair

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
by Dr. Janis Abrams Spring and Michael Spring, 2012.
“Not Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
by Shirley P. Glass, PhD with Jean Coppock Staeheli, 2003.
Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On – Together or Apart
by Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., Donald H. Baucom, Ph.D., and Kristina Koop Gordon, Ph.D., 2007.
How To Help Your Spouse Heal from an Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful
by Linda J. MacDonald, MS, LMFT, 2010.

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Sexual Addiction

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., 3rd Edition, 2001.
In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.; David L. Delmonico, Ph.D.; Elizabeth Griffin, M.A.; and Joseph M. Moriarty, 2nd Edition, 2007.

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Mood disorders

www.nimh.nih.gov
National Institute of Mental Health homepage, from which you can search for the topic of interest (depression, anxiety, panic attacks, etc.). This is a major clearinghouse of excellent information.
www.webMD.com
A generally reliable but less regulated site for physical and mental health.
Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder From Childhood Through Adulthood
 by Edward Hallowell. 1995. How to understand and manage adult ADD.
The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
by Elaine N. Aron, 1999.
Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway
by Susan Jeffers
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
by David Burns MD

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Parenting

1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12. 5th Edition
by Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, 2014.
Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go Of Your 13-18 Year Olds. 2nd Edition
by Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, 1998.
Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive
by Daniel Siegel, MD, and Mary Hartzell, 2003.
Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic
by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka Substance Abuse
BUZZED: The Straight Facts about the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy. Revised Edition
by Cynthia Kuhn, Ph.D., Scott Swartzwelder, Ph.D., Wilkie Wilson, Ph.D. ( Duke University Medical Center), Updated 4th Edition, 2014. An excellent source for the facts about drugs, without exaggeration or embellishment. It was written for college students and is suitable for ages 14 and above.
Loosening the Grip: A Handbook of Alcohol Information. 11th Edition
by Jean Kinney and Gwen Leaton, 2014.
Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development
by George E. Vaillant, MD, 2002.
From AGE-ING to SAGE-ING: A Profound New Vision of Growing Older
by Zalman Schachter-Shalomi and Ronald S. Miller, 1995.
Parenting With A Plan
by Matthew Johnson

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Others

What Happened to Mommy?
by Renée Fran hey book on Parent depression for children
Rewriting Love Stories: Brief Marital Therapy
by Patricia O’Hanlon Hudson and William Hudson O’Hanlon
The Defiant Child: A Parent’s Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder 
by Dr. Douglas a Reilly
Putting on the Brakes: Young People’s Guide to Understanding Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
by Patricia Quinn and Judith Stern Patricia Quinn M.D. Judith Stern MA
Step Systematic Training For Effective Parenting The Parents Handbook Don’t Think
by Meyer and Gary D McKay
SOS Help For Parents
by Lynn Clark PhD
The Parent’s Guide to Attention Deficit Disorders: Intervention Strategies for the Home 2nd Edition
by Stephen McCarney Ed it Ed.D. And Angela Marie Bauer M.ED.
Being Happy!: A Handbook to Greater Confidence and Security
by Andrew Matthews
Transforming the Difficult Child Workbook: An Interactive Guide to The Nurtured Heart Approach
by Howard Glasser Joanne Bowditch and Lisa bravo
The relaxation and stress workbook fourth edition Matthew Mackay PhD, Elizabeth Eshelman LCSW, Martha Davis PhD
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies
by Jim farrow and Brent Bradley PHD the secret to step families success by Gloria Linterman
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
by Bruce Fisher and Dr. Robert Albert
Wisdom on Stepparenting
by Diana Weiss-Wisdom PhD

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