Hello and welcome to episode 119 of The Couples Expert podcast. Thank you so much for joining our audience and listening to another important discussion from Stuart Fensterheim, The Couples Expert. Our podcast today is about how the attachments you have in childhood can affect your adult relationships. This may not be something that you’ve thought a lot about and you may even be surprised at how much sense this makes to you. Listen as Stuart explains the correlation between the way your family relationships were with the caregivers in your childhood and the way you relate to your partner.
This podcast is being released on the day that Stuart’s nephew by marriage will get married. Family issues often are brought out during these types of family events. It’s always interesting to see how traditional family roles are played out when the family gets together and how it will affect the event. This relates to our podcast today since we’re talking about how a child is raised and how their attachments were met(or not met) have a huge influence on the person they grow up to be.
What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:
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Additional Points & Resources
What Stuart and his colleagues do when they counsel couples is they find out about the attachment issues that they had as children and how that relates to their current love relationship crisis. Then they help couples begin to create secure attachment experiences where their needs are met in a positive way again and again under supervision in the office of the therapist.
When the couple is ready , they take those secure experiences home with them and begin to create new secure attachment experiences on their own. This is the beginning of changing the couples lives and perception of their relationship to one where it doesn’t matter what their childhood attachment issues are, the relationship that they have with their partner makes them feel loved, valued and important. That is the goal! To have a secure attachment with your partner where you both feel loved and important and you see your partner as the one person you can count on in your world.
This is a great opportunity for you and your partner to delve into the heart of the issues that might be troubling you. Find your way to a solution in just two short days.
Next Week on The Couples Expert Podcast
Please join us next week on the Couples Expert Podcast when Stuart will discuss getting your relationship ready for the school year with Sharmeen Muhmad, a marriage and therapy intern from Newport Beach , CA. We’re always glad to bring you experts in the field of love and relationships. Next week is sure to be a great podcast. We hope you’ll listen in!
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