Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast. This is episode 118 of our podcast and we’re so happy that you’re with us. In this episode, Stuart will be discussing anger and the impact it has on relationships and marriage. Anger is something we all deal with at one time or another, and it’s a sure bet that one or both of you will get angry from time to time. It’s what happens when you’re angry that impacts the relationship with your partner. How you handle your anger and how you manage these strong emotions are what really matters.
Stuart and his wife spent 4th of July at home watching Arizona fireworks shows from the deck of their home. Keeping it small and intimate was a way for them to share the holiday, drinking cocktails and enjoying their time together. You don’t always have to do something big. Sometimes the times of togetherness are what make them feel big. Stuart and Debbie have been picking lemons and grapefruits and making their own Limoncello and Grapefruitcello which are Italian liqueurs that they make from scratch. Sharing this time and their drinks together made the 4th of July fireworks viewing even more special. It’s activities that you do with your partner that have meaning for you both that make you feel even closer to one another. The joy in your lives is the result of the happiness you have by the experiences you share together. Listen as Stuart discusses this week’s topic of the impact of anger in your marriage.
“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the ability to choose. I hope you choose laughter.
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When you’re dealing with anger and problems you need to have extreme patience and respect for each other. If you’re feeling resentment in your relationship, you must look at the triggers. When you do this as a couple and really listen to the feelings that each other has you can get to the source of what is setting the scene for these angry moments.
Being authentic and honest with each other is crucial to resolving anger in relationships. Communication, patience, respect and forgiveness are necessary to letting go of negativity and resentment.
Remember that your partner is worthy of your love and care. Allow yourself to let go of anger and resentment and get to that relationship with your partner where you truly realize that you care about each other more than anyone else in this world.
Anger doesn’t have to be the end. It can be the beginning of a deeper and more connected relationship for you both.
Stuart recommends this book: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
Please listen in next week as Stuart discusses childhood attachments and how they impact our relationships with our partners. It’s important to realize how the way we were raised and the relationships we had with our parents and primary caregivers has a direct impact on our adult relationships. Stuart has a lot of great information to share. Please tune in to The Couples Expert. Until next time, stay connected.
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